如何建立边界感,重获情感独立
[美]琳赛·吉布森(Lindsay C. Gibson) 姜帆
overview
In this important sequel to Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents , author Lindsay Gibson offers powerful tools to help you step back and protect yourself at the first sign of an emotional takeover, make sure your emotions and needs are respected, and break free from the coercive control of emotionally immature parents.
Growing up with emotionally immature (EI) parents can leave you feeling lonely and neglected. You may have trouble setting limits and expressing your feelings. And you may even be more susceptible to other emotionally immature people as you establish adult relationships. In addition, as your parents become older, they may still treat your emotions with mockery and contempt, be dismissive and discounting of your reality, and try to control and diminish your sense of emotional autonomy and freedom of thought. In short, EIs can be self-absorbed, inconsistent, and contradictory. So, how can you recover from their toxic behavior?
Drawing on the success of her popular self-help book, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents , author Lindsay Gibson offers yet another essential resource. With this follow-up guide, you’ll learn practical skills to help you recognize the signs of an EI, protect yourself against an emotional takeover, reconnect with your own emotions and needs, and gain emotional autonomy in all your relationships. This is a how-to book, with doable exercises and active tips and suggestions for what to say and do to increase emotional autonomy and self-awareness.
If you’re ready to stop putting your own needs last, clear the clutter of self-doubt, and move beyond the fear of judgment and punishment that’s been instilled in you by emotionally immature parents, this book will help you find the freedom to finally live your life your way .
contents
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前言
第一部分 应对不成熟的父母:如何抵御他们的情感控制
第1章 与不成熟的父母相处有什么感受 / 2
第2章 不成熟的父母是如何控制你的 / 23
第3章 为什么你渴望亲近父母,却常常失望 / 50
第4章 如何主动抵制父母的情感控制 / 76
第5章 如何在与父母的互动中设置边界 / 99
第6章 如何捍卫拥有内在体验的权利 / 123
第二部分 重获情感独立:学习自我成长的新技能
第7章 培养与自我的关系,重视自己的内在体验 / 146
第8章 与自我对话,扫除思想垃圾 / 168
第9章 构建一个更健康的自我概念 / 191
第10章 在当下的互动中改善与父母的关系 / 215
结语 成年子女的基本权利清单 / 241
致谢 / 247
参考文献 / 250