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<p>tldr; we need help getting a couch and a mattress with a box spring.</p><p>WARNING: Incredibly long-winded diatribe ahead. Do not drive or operate heavy machinery while reading this.</p><p>--------------------------------------------</p><p>I try to be respectful and use CWs when fundraising to avoid unnecessary cluttering of the timeline unless incredibly urgent. I never, *ever* want to make people feel pressured or scammed, and if I have inadvertently done so, I sincerely apologize.</p><p>Having said that, I realize it&#x27;s very arrogant of me to request this after all the help we&#x27;ve been given on our journey already. There are countless other people in far more dire circumstances. There are even people on the Fediverse who are flat-out homeless, so how can I justify such a frivolous plea for help?</p><p>My counter-argument to that is: regrettably, I don&#x27;t have one. I have no idea how we&#x27;ve been so lucky when there are so many others also in need.</p><p>Ever since an encounter I had recently, I&#x27;ve tried to think of how I would feel about other people raising the kinds of funds that have been donated to us. Would I feel jealous, or that it was just &quot;getting old&quot;, despite them going to great lengths to not seem pushy or yelling and to just be as unobtrusive as possible?</p><p>Obviously I&#x27;m biased, but my answer to that question has always been &quot;Absolutely not&quot;. I would feel excited and happy that they were being helped. I have helped a couple of people fundraise and I was just as thrilled seeing us hit goal for a total stranger halfway across the country, as I am when *we* hit goal.</p><p>Where am I going with this, you ask? Well, perhaps I&#x27;m still a little rattled from the aforementioned encounter. I try to look at our situation as if through the lens of others but somehow I can&#x27;t always muster as much sympathy or excitement for *us* as I would for literally anybody else.</p><p>I don&#x27;t honestly have a valid justification for making this request and I&#x27;m struggling like hell to get past that because personally, I wouldn&#x27;t fault anyone else for a humble CW&#x27;d request as this yet it feels vain to write this.</p><p>Alright, none of that had any point. Yay cannabis!</p><p>So my exceptionally long-winded immediate digression aside, I&#x27;m hoping people might consider the following scenario as a &quot;housewarming&quot; gift:</p><p>We&#x27;re coming up on Black Friday. (Yes, I know this is supporting bloodthirsty capitalism. I am a hypocrite, okay? They&#x27;ve got some good deals and I don&#x27;t know what else to do.) </p><p>We haven&#x27;t owned a bed since we had to abandon it due to poor planning and a very urgent need to get the hell out of a toxic situation. Since we&#x27;d been living in motels for just a couple days past a full calendar year, I was making due with what we had in the motel rooms but now that we&#x27;re in an apartment finally, we&#x27;ve been sleeping on 4&quot; foam padding on the floor. Let me tell you how great that is for my allergies with a prolifically shedding border collie, and how relaxing it is after a full shift of pushing carts. (That&#x27;s a negative on both counts.)</p><p>One of our local furniture stores has a bed I would love on a Black Friday deal, and they do delivery. It&#x27;s the cheapest I&#x27;ve been able to find with the features I need.</p><p>Why not a used mattress, you may ask? What&#x27;s my justification? Why do I seem to be asking so many rhetorical questions so as to rival Rumsfeld?</p><p>The answer to the first two questions in the previous paragraph is multi-pronged: my incessant, never-ending allergies, and a brand-new mattress allows me to put a mattress protector over it and then an hypoallergenic, waterproof liner over that. My allergies are fucking ridiculous.</p><p>Secondly, for some inexplicable reason, I seem to do better with back problems if I sleep on a *firm* mattress rather than a fluffy pillowtop. Weirdly, it seems rather difficult to locate a used, firm mattress in good condition in our area.</p><p>Thirdly, it gets our bed installed in our apartment. We let the professionals lug those suckers up a narrow flight of stairs to our bedroom.</p><p>Alright, if anyone has managed to make it this far, there&#x27;s another part to this:</p><p>We haven&#x27;t had a full-size couch in six years. God I miss having a couch. I&#x27;ve always used second-hand sofas because pets. Plus brand-new couches cost a fortune. The problem is transportation; usually when a couch we like comes up on the free classifieds section, we have no way to get it home.</p><p>I found a local couch - god I hope it hasn&#x27;t been sold and the seller was just too lazy to take the ad down - that, as far as I can tell from studying a handful of pics of it seems to be in great condition. And the seller is willing to deliver it, although I doubt they would be interested in scaling the above-mentioned stairs.</p><p>These two items would make our apartment truly feel like home. And I&#x27;m pretty sure I can have them both transported here if not set up inside as well, for $600. Sadly, despite the large price tag I&#x27;m afraid this is probably one of our cheapest opportunities.</p><p>I promise you we are trying so damned hard to become self-sufficient, despite this request and a gnawing fear that I won&#x27;t quite be able to make December&#x27;s rent, which I really *really* don&#x27;t want to happen during our first month here in the complex.</p><p>In closing, let me just say once again that we are insanely grateful for all the help everyone has given us these past few years, and I mean that from the bottom of my cold, cynical heart. We would&#x27;ve lost all our possessions and risked entering a vicious cycle of bad situations. I will never understand why we were chosen to be so fortunate, but thank Cthulu you&#x27;ve kept us alive nonetheless.</p><p>If you&#x27;re willing AND able, please boost and if possible donate. If you can&#x27;t donate, *do NOT feel guilty* for being in the same boat as us. Your feelings about it are valid but rest assured you needn&#x27;t feel bad.</p><p>Venmo: <a href="https://venmo.com/thegizmotwins" rel="nofollow"><span class="invisible">https://</span>venmo.com/thegizmotwins</a><br>Cashapp: <a href="https://cash.app/$thegizmotwins" rel="nofollow"><span class="invisible">https://</span>cash.app/$thegizmotwins</a><br>PP: <a href="https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/gizmo1982" rel="nofollow" class="ellipsis" title="www.paypal.com/paypalme/gizmo1982"><span class="invisible">https://</span><span class="ellipsis">www.paypal.com/paypalme/gizmo1</span><span class="invisible">982</span></a><br>GFM: <a href="https://gofund.me/12171be3" rel="nofollow"><span class="invisible">https://</span>gofund.me/12171be3</a> </p><p><a href="/tags/mutualaid/" rel="tag">#MutualAid</a> <a href="/tags/mentalillness/" rel="tag">#MentalIllness</a> <a href="/tags/bpd/" rel="tag">#BPD</a> <a href="/tags/cptsd/" rel="tag">#CPTSD</a> <a href="/tags/mutualaidsaveslives/" rel="tag">#MutualAidSavesLives</a> <span class="h-card"><a href="https://ovo.st/club/mutualaid" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>mutualaid</span></a></span></p>

<p>if you want to help a burnt-out, unemployed, and disabled trans girl survive and afford essential care and hygienic supplies, you may donate to my <a href="https://ko-fi.com/dizziest" rel="nofollow">ko-fi</a> or <a href="https://liberapay.com/liv/" rel="nofollow">liberapay</a><br><br>I don&#x27;t really have anything cool or useful to share to demonstrate why I specifically should be enabled to continue existing, but gosh wouldn&#x27;t it be neat to find out what I could do if I wasn&#x27;t constantly being crushed under the weight of poverty, debt, and the threat of becoming unsheltered?<br><br><a href="/tags/mutualaid/" rel="tag">#mutualaid</a> <a href="/tags/helpatransgirl/" rel="tag">#helpatransgirl</a> <a href="/tags/mutualaidrequest/" rel="tag">#mutualaidrequest</a> <a href="/tags/mutualaidsaveslives/" rel="tag">#mutualaidsaveslives</a></p>