女性
记一忘三二 Google Books Douban
8.2 (50 ratings) author: 李娟 publishing house: 花城出版社 2020 - 7 other title: 记一忘三二(简体版)
“鲁迅文学奖”“中国好书”奖得主,李娟《记一忘三二》2020年全新修订版。作者替换增改几万字篇幅,并增加新序。
《记一忘三二》是作家李娟十余年来的随笔结集。三十余篇以“记”为题的文字轻松随性,从亲情、友情、爱情,工作、生活、兴趣乃至梦境等诸多侧面,记录了李娟的心路日常——与母亲相依为命也闹过“分居”,定居于荒野中的大院子而生活不再颠沛流离,少年时曾遭受的暴力与得到的关爱,等等,随着成长反而愈益清晰。种种文字率性而作,平实诙谐,同时又有掩盖不住的温暖和诗意,组成一幕幕“含泪的微笑”,连缀起时间流逝中的琐碎日常。
April 21, 2023 read
受了读书会安利开始看李娟,单被这个我很能 relate 的名字吸引挑了这本,短小精悍鸡毛蒜皮的小事一开始轻快有趣特别好读,甚至重新激起了一些写作热情,没想到中后期竟然掺杂了一些我妈伤痕文学。但李娟的文笔又能轻松波澜不惊但信手拈来讲一个特别悲伤的感觉,母女伤痕也好亲情爱情遗憾也好,甚至有一篇举重若轻说自己懒但实际上抑郁到下不了床后来垂死病中惊坐起的故事,就,浑身透露着我一贯喜欢的“不把自己太当回事”气质,四两拨千斤叹为观止。成功入坑。
女性
The Last of Us (2023)
The Last of Us Season 1 part of TV Series: The Last of Us
8.8 (595 ratings) director: 阿里·阿巴西 / 杰里米·韦布 actor: Pedro Pascal / Bella Ramsey
2013年,突变的虫草菌肆虐美国,真菌将人类宿主变成了攻击性超强的吃人怪物。20年后,人类文明已面目全非,幸存的人类为了生存自相残杀。一天,乔尔(佩德罗·帕斯卡 饰)和泰丝(安娜·托芙 饰)接了一个赏金任务,反抗组织“火萤”的首领玛琳(梅尔·丹德里奇 饰)要他们离开由军队保护的隔离区,护送一个14岁的女孩艾莉(贝拉·拉姆齐 饰)穿越化为废墟丛林的大都市去火萤的研究基地。可他们不知道的是,女孩身上隐藏着一个关系到人类文明延续的秘密……
March 13, 2023 watched
可能是看之前被游戏迷们把期望值推得太高,觉得倒也没有到神剧的地步,但确实改编得非常用心,没玩过原作也能一眼看出非常游戏感的小细节能直接脑补出游戏场景和玩法(但据不打游戏的朋友说是 discourage 而不是吸引人的地方),还原度到位的同时又有不少与时俱进的改动。俩主角从选角到改编都塑造得很棒,尤其中后期 Ellie 的不在合理范围内的小镇那集的智勇双全靠自己脱困,以及与之对比 Joel 不需要 justification 的不废话不择手段。支线角色们的故事也都详略得当不 distracting 又使世界更加丰满。看了剧感觉 well prepared 有点想玩第二部自己判断一下争议要选哪边站了!
hbo 改编 女性
Self-Compassion Douban Goodreads
author: Kristin Neff publishing house: William Morrow 2011 - 5
From leading psychologist Dr. Kristin Neff comes a step-by-step guide explaining how to be more self-compassionate and achieve your dreams in life
The relentless pursuit of high self-esteem has become a virtual religion—and a tyrannical one at that. Our ultracompetitive culture tells us we need to be constantly above average to feel good about ourselves, but there is always someone more attractive, successful, or intelligent than we are. And even when we do manage to grab hold of high self-esteem for a brief moment, we can't seem to keep it. Our sense of self-worth goes up and down like a ping-pong ball, rising and falling in lockstep with our latest success or failure.
Fortunately, there is an alternative to self-esteem that many experts believe is a better and more effective path to happiness: self-compassion. The research of Dr. Kristin Neff and other leading psychologists indicates that people who are compassionate toward their failings and imperfections experience greater well-being than those who repeatedly judge themselves. The feelings of security and self-worth provided by self-compassion are also highly stable, kicking in precisely when self-esteem falls down. This book powerfully demonstrates why it's so important to be self-compassionate and give yourself the same caring support you'd give to a good friend.
This groundbreaking work will show you how to let go of debilitating self-criticism and finally learn to be kind to yourself. Using solid empirical research, personal stories, practical exercises, and humor, Dr. Neff—the world's foremost expert on self-compassion—explains how to heal destructive emotional patterns so that you can be healthier, happier, and more effective. Engaging, highly readable, and eminently accessible, this book has the power to change your life.
March 1, 2023 read
探讨 self-esteem 和 self-compassion 的区别优劣还蛮有意思,提到不同文化里高估自己在不同方面(比如美国的人大都觉得自己比别人特别,东亚则是大都觉得自己比别人艰难/努力)也挺有意思,但绝大多数篇幅是说理、随意举例而不是系统地讲述理论体系或者研究支撑,就让我对学术背景作者的这篇有点失望,鸡汤我看网文就好了呀看一本专门研究这个题材的 PhD 写的整本书干嘛?实用教学部分的 self-help 我也通常没兴趣。道理是好道理,书写的一般,半本弃。
self-help 女性
Hidden Letters (2022) WikiData IMDb TMDB Douban
Hidden Letters
7.8 (12 ratings) director: Violet Du Feng / 赵青
other title: 女书 / 彩云在飘水在流
Hidden Letters tells the story of two Chinese women trying to balance their lives as independent women in modern China while confronting the traditional identity that defines but also oppresses them. Connected through their love for Nushu--a centuries- old secret text shared among women -- each of them transforms through a pivotal period of their lives and takes a step closer to becoming the individuals they know they can be.
Jan. 22, 2023 watched
开头如坐针毡,大概是和明目张胆的窒息式父权社会隔离太久,一瞬间被拉回那种氛围打回原形 PTSD。后面渐入佳境,因为导演抓住各种男性丑态的细致入微和 mean(褒义)会心一笑好多次,很少看到(懂?)彩蛋这么多的纪录片。歌唱家姑娘未婚夫一出来对比真的太精妙了:虽然已经比前面老一辈的写在脸上的油腻看上去强很多,但骨子里还是男尊女卑女人家庭为重那一套,家乡话一出太有身临其境的“亲切感”了。后来姑娘自己在家整个人鲜活起来再揭露这对儿结局让人在电影院拍手称快。几位闺蜜和策展小组女性发言也很解气,有一位“本来以为找个男人是帮你遮风挡雨的,后来发现这个风雨都是他带来的”可太精妙了。江永县那位女书前辈奶奶可太!酷!了!看的时候在想不懂中文的观众 miss 太多了。结尾略拖,静物画面也过多,可以压掉二十分钟。
女性 纪录片 华裔
切尔茜·汉德勒:蜕变 (2022) TMDB Douban
Chelsea Handler: Revolution
8.9 (7 ratings) director: 乔·科伊 actor: 切尔西·韩德勒
other title: Chelsea Handler: Revolution
The comic lets loose on her life choices, rowdy rescue dogs, dating frustrations, and why society owes women an apology.
Jan. 12, 2023 watched
因为看过一个 clip 的预告随手点开,没想到这么好笑,新的 spiritual animal 可能诞生了(我怎么这么多灵魂生物)。本 kid hater 第一次见所谓 family oriented 的美国主流媒体上这么毫不遮掩大肆反育的秀,拍大腿称快好多次。自我调侃好多个狗段子也是特别敢说,比只敢讲看似争议实际安全的种族性别性向段子猛太多了。大姐凶猛的风格真是爱了,容我尊称一声,猛女。最后突如其来地秀恩爱那段确实有点 underwhelming though。四星半
女性 单口 netflix
Maybe You Should Talk to Someone Google Books Douban Goodreads
9.0 (45 ratings) author: Lori Gottlieb publishing house: Houghton Mifflin Harcourt 2019 - 4
One day, Lori Gottlieb is a therapist who helps patients in her Los Angeles practice. The next, a crisis causes her world to come crashing down. Enter Wendell, the quirky but seasoned therapist in whose office she suddenly lands. With his balding head, cardigan, and khakis, he seems to have come straight from Therapist Central Casting. Yet he will turn out to be anything but.
As Gottlieb explores the inner chambers of her patients' lives -- a self-absorbed Hollywood producer, a young newlywed diagnosed with a terminal illness, a senior citizen threatening to end her life on her birthday if nothing gets better, and a twenty-something who can't stop hooking up with the wrong guys -- she finds that the questions they are struggling with are the very ones she is now bringing to Wendell.
With startling wisdom and humor, Gottlieb invites us into her world as both clinician and patient, examining the truths and fictions we tell ourselves and others as we teeter on the tightrope between love and desire, meaning and mortality, guilt and redemption, terror and courage, hope and change.
Maybe You Should Talk to Someone is revolutionary in its candor, offering a deeply personal yet universal tour of our hearts and minds and providing the rarest of gifts: a boldly revealing portrait of what it means to be human, and a disarmingly funny and illuminating account of our own mysterious lives and our power to transform them.
Jan. 12, 2023 read
读书真的很讲缘分,开始读这本书的时候我状态没那么差觉得只是文笔好而已,读到中途心态崩了开始 relate 书中每一个人和故事(甚至只能 relate 的是一开始最讨厌的角色),听进去每一句作者和她的病人和她的 therapist 的对话和突破,仿佛进行了一场大型互动 therapy 旅程,从 defensive 到打开心扉到找到突破点到做出改变。我是没想到泪点超高的我读一本 self-help/therapy book 能哭好几次。不但从病人的角度,连从职业选择/中年寻找 calling 的角度本书都成了大型安利现场,作者追求的不是 happiness 而是 meaning 的醒悟大概也是我一直潜意识里不愿向自己承认的一点。此外作者文笔无比流畅但用词又考究而不做作,也真的很好读。
女性 self-help
Official Secrets (2019) WikiData IMDb TMDB Douban
Official Secrets
7.5 (98 ratings) director: 加文·胡德 actor: 凯拉·奈特莉 / 马特·史密斯
other title: 官方机密 / 官谎真相(港)
2019 film directed by Gavin Hood
Jan. 5, 2023 watched
我没想到人年纪大了一部真实事件改编的英国政府特工为了阻止美国侵略伊拉克战争而与整个国家做对的政治/庭审片能给人看得眼泪打转好几次。感觉是凯拉·奈特莉的演技巅峰了,好几次怒发冲冠地回应看得人头皮发麻热血沸腾。丈夫的态度和情绪变化虽然刻稍显刻板但也非常感人。报社性格立场各异的记者们也增色不少。反倒是主要角色伏地魔的律师过于内敛冷静,即便刻意加了前同事几段戏还是稍显平淡了。
netflix 女性 真实事件改编
Picture a Scientist (2020) WikiData IMDb TMDB Douban
Picture a Scientist
9.6 (29 ratings) director: Ian Cheney / Sharon Shattuck actor: Mahzarin Banaji / Raychelle Burks
other title: 科学家的模样 / 科學家群像
Despite the minimal news coverage, sexual harassment and gender inequality against women are no less prevalent in science than they are in pop culture and corporate America.
May 5, 2022 watched
仿佛看了一部具象化的学术界《Invisible Women》,作为观众从开篇“骗女儿是开心泪水然后对观众说想到走上这条路线可能在人生未来几十年被 treat like shit”的震撼独白开始全程 enraged。起承转合节奏控制超棒,人物也选得各有特色,比如发声的冰川学家 full of himself 的ally 原味展现,MIT 沉稳的教授们和她们委员会的研究数据和实验,Berkeley 那位性格鲜明还做 science communication 的黑人教授和她活泼有力愤怒的声音等等。我最喜欢的一段是说委员会决定只停止不开除 bully,观众和当事人都在表示愤怒的时候说但是被 BU 校长反对并开除了,然后刚才出现过的 MIT 的前主任出来讲话字幕缓缓打出是 BU 现校长,拍大腿称快。
netflix 纪录片 女性
The Last Duel (2021)
The Last Duel
8.1 (527 ratings) director: Ridley Scott actor: Jodie Comer / Matt Damon
other title: 最后的决斗 / 最后的对决
2021 film by Ridley Scott
Oct. 25, 2021 watched
本来看了卡司(主要是 Jodie Comer)和题材(中世纪 me too)就觉得只要不糊就谢天谢地了,结果居然这么完美。三段式 POV 式叙事把控得丝毫不无聊,刻意强调的不同视角把情绪与诉求表达得恰到好处,尤其是前两段的男性视角和第三段稍有些慢热的女性视角相辅相成自然地带入让人咬牙切齿又拍案叫绝。更何况中世纪末期神权重压下马上要喘息的人性时代的各个仪式、道具和伪善都表现得非常到位。pandemic 来首次回归 AMC 这万年老粉的陈年 reward 换的观影体验太值了。
美国 女性 动作 历史
Nanette (2018)
Hannah Gadsby: Nanette
9.6 (348 ratings) director: 乔恩·欧布 / 玛德琳·帕里 actor: 汉纳·盖茨比
other title: 汉纳·盖茨比告别秀:娜娜 / Hannah Gadsby: Nanette
stand-up comedy act written and performed by Australian comedian Hannah Gadsby
Ammonite (2020)
Ammonite
6.6 (371 ratings) director: 弗朗西斯·李 actor: 凯特·温丝莱特 / 西尔莎·罗南
other title: 암모나이트 / アンモナイトの目覚め
In 1840s England, palaeontologist Mary Anning and a young woman sent by her husband to convalesce by the sea develop an intense relationship. Despite the chasm between their social spheres and personalities, Mary and Charlotte discover they can each offer what the other has been searching for: the realisation that they are not alone. It is the beginning of a passionate and all-consuming love affair that will defy all social bounds and alter the course of both lives irrevocably.
April 20, 2021 watched
前面其实 tension 不错,特别是音乐会那场我太懂了。但是后半部分节奏真是太烂了,仿佛不知道如何结尾只好拿近代 les 戏迫于时代难免 BE 的现实做文章强行发糖但又扭扭捏捏不想发太 cheesy。最大的问题是,无论床戏多直白,凯特温斯莱特和罗南真是太没火花了,仿佛两个铁 T 被迫床戏。当一个戏凯特温斯莱特和罗南的 tension 还不如前者跟 Fiona Shaw 花园见面那场含蓄的旧情时你就知道一部戏感情戏主线拍多失败了。
LGBTQ les 女性 英国
Nomadland (2020)
Nomadland
8.2 (1404 ratings) director: 赵婷 actor: 弗兰西斯·麦克多蒙德 / 大卫·斯特雷泽恩
other title: 无依之地 / 浪迹天地(港)
2020 film directed by Chloé Zhao
March 2, 2021 watched
在公路和放逐的片子里并不能算特别打动我的。本来遇到各式各样的人和相忘于江湖的淡如水还挺感动的,但最后归结到要 remember 不太能 relate。大概是被迫而不是出于选择的缘故,回到原点的 Amazon 仓库真的有点 depressing,看的时候我想要的放逐重生自由感完全没有,内心满满的是女主在房间里听到雷声时的压迫感。
公路 女性 小说改编 美国
Promising Young Woman (2020)
Promising Young Woman
7.7 (536 ratings) director: 埃默拉尔德·芬内尔 actor: 凯瑞·穆里根 / 博·伯翰
other title: 前程似锦的女孩 / 超犀女王(港)
2020 film directed by Emerald Fennell
Feb. 12, 2021 watched
说是复仇爽片的我们是对爽有什么不同理解的吗?幸亏我被提前打了预防针,否则可能要被气死。其实我感觉拍成爽片可能反而会更好,现在想看复仇爽片的也被气到,恬不知耻的也 learned nothing 没有被警醒。不过诚然,不这么做也确实不可能得到想要的“正义”了。如短评所说,这竟然已是一个女孩最好的结局。
女性 犯罪 美国
Strip Down, Rise Up (2021) WikiData IMDb TMDB Douban
Strip Down, Rise Up
director: Michèle Ohayon actor: Sheila Kelley / Amy Bond
other title: 袒露新生 / 退下后的勇气旅程
Academy Award Nominated director Michèle Ohayon's Verite film follows women of all ages and ethnic backgrounds who heal trauma and body image shame through sensual dance and daring pole dance artistry.
Feb. 10, 2021 watched
本来蛮好一个题材,拍得还蛮无趣的。跟了一个 studio 一期学员从头到尾的历程,剪得特别散,群像也没做好,没有起承转合,没展现学员的成长,就平铺直叙特别琐碎的 vlog 水平。
女性 纪录片 美国
Killing Eve Season 3 (2020) TMDB Douban Skybridge
Killing Eve Season 3 part of TV Series: Killing Eve
7.5 (409 ratings) director: Terry McDonough / 香农·墨菲 actor: 吴珊卓 / Jodie Comer
我们回到这两个女人的故事,她们有着动荡而残酷的过去。他们因对彼此的共同痴迷而团结在一起,但现在他们每个人都在不惜一切代价努力过自己的生活。对于薇拉内尔这个没有工作的刺客来说,伊芙已经死了。对于现在躲藏起来的前军情六处特工伊芙来说,维拉内尔已经成为过去,因为她再也找不到她了。一切似乎都很顺利,直到一场令人震惊的死亡让妇女们的命运再次交叉。这次重聚对双方来说都将付出同样的代价。朋友、家人和忠诚都将受到威胁,甚至可能是他们自己的灵魂。
Feb. 10, 2021 watched
这个故事注定短命,一直没忍心看完,这一季度也疯狂发糖甚至有点用力过猛,在 tension 维持到好处的那场公车戏之后就像往季一样有点失控了,后半部分太散。就像第第二季小变态警告 Eve 所说的:The only thing that makes you interesting is me. 当小变态自身的波动维持不了这个状态,当 Eve 的任务也不再是追寻小变态(即便这季一开始就造了个不错的目标但是没坚持住),本剧最大的魅力——小变态和 Eve 之间的 tension,也就不在了。
LGBT 女性 犯罪 英国
Molly's Game (2017) WikiData IMDb TMDB Douban
Molly's Game
7.0 (250 ratings) director: 艾伦·索金 actor: 杰西卡·查斯坦 / 伊德里斯·艾尔巴
other title: 茉莉牌局 / 决胜女王(台)
2017 film directed by Aaron Sorkin
Jan. 9, 2021 watched
要不是 Netflix 推荐到差点错过,劳模姐真的演了很多劳模角色哇。看简介还以为是扑克版的《Queen's Gambit》,谁知道完全是超快语速风云变幻一副《社交网络》了的架势,节奏紧凑故事跌宕看得非常爽。
传记 女性 犯罪 真实事件改编 美国
The Queen's Gambit (2020) TMDB Douban Bangumi Eggplant.place
The Queen's Gambit Season 1 part of TV Series: The Queen's Gambit
8.4 (1590 ratings) director: 斯科特·弗兰克 actor: 安雅·泰勒-乔伊 / 伊斯拉·约翰斯顿
Eight year-old orphan Beth Harmon is quiet, sullen, and by all appearances unremarkable. That is, until she plays her first game of chess. Her senses grow sharper, her thinking clearer, and for the first time in her life she feels herself fully in control. By the age of sixteen, she's competing for the U.S. Open championship. But as Beth hones her skills on the professional circuit, the stakes get higher, her isolation grows more frightening, and the thought of escape becomes all the more tempting. Based on the book by Walter Tevis.
Nov. 2, 2020 watched
depressing world 真的需要一个大爽片,完全不懂象棋也可以看得很爽,女主和几个男配选角真的棒。然而一个竞技爽片被从来不恋爱脑的我看成了言情剧怎么回事,里面几段感情都拍得太撩了,尤其哈利和娃娃脸那两段,居然觉得跟《燃烧女子肖像》里凝视那一段有得一拼。
Netflix 国际象棋 女性 小说改编 美剧
Birds of Prey: And the Fantabulous Emancipation of One Harley Quinn (2020)
Birds of Prey: And the Fantabulous Emancipation of One Harley Quinn
5.5 (400 ratings) director: 阎羽茜 actor: 玛格特·罗比 / 玛丽·伊丽莎白·温斯特德
other title: 猛禽小队和哈莉·奎茵 / 哈莉·奎因:猛禽小队
2020 film directed by Cathy Yan
RBG (2018) WikiData IMDb TMDB Douban
RBG
9.2 (773 ratings) director: 朱莉·科昂 / 贝齐·韦斯特 actor: 鲁斯·巴德·金斯伯格 / 比尔·克林顿
other title: 大法官金斯伯格 / 鲁斯·巴德·金斯伯格
I ask no favors for my sex… All I ask of our brethren is that they will take their feet from off our necks.
—Sarah Moore Grimké, activist for women’s suffrage, 1837
As the United States Supreme Court leans increasingly to the right, Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg’s vigorous dissenting opinions and ferocious 20-push-up workouts have earned this tiny, soft-spoken, intellectual giant the status of rock star and the title “Notorious RBG.” What many don’t know is Ginsburg’s strategic, trailblazing role in defining gender-discrimination law. Intent on systematically releasing women from second-class status, she argued six pivotal gender-bias cases in the 1970s before an all-male Supreme Court blind to sexism.
Now 84, and still inspired by the lawyers who defended free speech during the Red Scare, Ginsburg refuses to relinquish her passionate duty, steadily fighting for equal rights for all citizens under the law. Through intimate interviews and unprecedented access to Ginsburg’s life outside the court, RBG tells the electric story of Ginsburg’s consuming love affairs with both the Constitution and her beloved husband Marty—and of a life’s work that led her to become an icon of justice in the highest court in the land.
Oct. 4, 2020 watched
Simply inspiring,看得热血沸腾,很多习以为常 take for granted 的权利其实这么晚才被争取到。
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Away (2020) Douban
Away
6.6 (18 ratings) director: 大卫·博伊德 / 夏洛特·布伦斯特伦 actor: 希拉里·斯万克 / 乔西·查尔斯
Netflix 剧集《远漂》由安德鲁·欣德雷克打造,是一部史诗级的感人剧情片,歌颂了人类所能取得的不可思议的进步,以及在这一过程中所必须做出的个人牺牲。当美国宇航员艾玛·格林(希拉里·斯万克饰)准备率领国际团队首次前往火星执行任务时,她不得不权衡自己的决定,在丈夫(乔西·查尔斯饰)和十几岁的女儿(特丽莎·贝特曼饰)最需要她的时候离开他们。随着宇航员太空之旅的任务不断加重,他们的个人互动以及远离地球亲人对其造成的影响变得越来越复杂。《远漂》告诉我们,有时候要想实现梦想,我们必须背井离乡。该剧由剧集主管杰西卡·戈德堡、马特·里夫斯、杰森·卡蒂玛姆利、 爱德华·兹威克、希拉里·斯万克、亚当·卡桑、安德鲁·欣德雷克、詹尼·穆莱因和米歇尔·李担任监制。
Sept. 10, 2020 watched
太空肥皂剧,技术方面槽点颇多但娱乐性不错,stereotype 多(尤其指挥官在不知道王璐和 May 的故事与语言有关的前提下安慰时候说她英语好的时候都快要笑喷出来了)但大部分也不能说是错的,且更重要的是没有 OOC 反而成功塑造了角色。而且看到最后 middle finger to you know who 的时候还蛮过瘾的。故事本身是自洽流畅的,因为刻板印象和技术硬伤而否认其质量其实跟认为《花木兰》烂(which is true)是因为文化设定一样,都有点潜意识民族自尊心的成分了(not saying it's wrong)。家属给别人描述时候说是“俄罗斯大叔,英国黑人农民,中国中年 lesbian 妇女,印度小哥,和美国大妈去火星的故事”笑喷了(其实她是 Hilary Swank 粉)
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